August is a good time to interact with your grandchildren before they begin activities for the coming school year. Earlier this month I shared a meal with my grandson and wrote about it. This past week I visited with my granddaughter who was preparing to go off to college for her first adventure alone in the greater world.

When my granddaughter was born eighteen years ago, I decided to keep a journal describing our relationship–we had a regular play day every week. The journal adventure lasted for eight years. Recently I found it among my own journals that go back more than fifty years. The question occurred to me: Should I give the work to her now or save it until she is older? I decided now was the right time. I wanted her to consider the idea of starting her own journal record.

While reading the entries about our relationship fourteen years ago–when my granddaughter was four years old–I discovered one sentence that suggested the beginning of a new story.

Journal entry, October 10, 2003
Pap, are you going to Heaven to be with Reggie? (I am Pap and Reggie was a family dog who had died)

This entry sparked my imagination and I started to write……

Granddaughter: “Pap, when you die, will you be with Reggie in Heaven?”
“I don’t know”, I responded. “Where’s Heaven?”
She paused a moment; then pointed up and said, “Up in the sky with God.”
I pondered another moment and then responded, “What’s it like up in the sky?”
“You’re high above the clouds”, she responded.
“Oh”, I said, “that sounds cool. I could look over the edge of a cloud and see where you live.”
She laughed and said, “Oh Pap, you’re kidding me.”
Seeing the beginning of a good story, I continued to play: “Yes, and maybe you could come to visit with me, Reggie and God! You could ride on Pegasus up to the clouds!”
“Who is Pegasus?”, she asked.
“You don’t know Pegasus”, I responded.” Good, then I will tell you a story of the winged horse.”

Long ago in the ancient land of Greece there lived a beautiful girl of ten years. Her hair was as black as the midnight sky and her eyes were as blue as a cloudless summer sky. Her name was Sofia, which meant in ancient Greece, one of great wisdom and a lover of story. This name was given to her by her grandmother, not by the parents who brought her into the world. You see the day she was born, a great earthquake struck the village where her family lived. Her father, mother and only sister were all killed. Miraculously the girl was found alive in the rubble of the family home and she was given to the grandmother to be raised to adulthood.

The girl’s name was well chosen. From an early age she showed a preference for listening to stories told by the old people who gathered near the spring called Hippocrene. One cool winter’s night Sofia sat near the spring as the sky shifted through shades of red growing progressively darker. An old man worked over a gathering of twigs to build a fire and extend the fading light on the hillside of Mt. Helicon. Then an old woman stood up to catch the light from the fire and propose a question:
“Do you know the story of Pegasus, the flying horse?”
“Yes, yes, yes” cried several voices. One called out, “Tell the story of the hero who rides the beast!”
Sofia watched the old storyteller position herself to advantage in the firelight. Bending forward, she extended her hand from a multi-colored shawl wrapped around her shoulders and began a tale of a terrifying monster that was mounted by the hero, Bellerophon.
“It was like harnessing a summer thunderstorm that sweeps down from Mt Helicon”, said the old woman. “Only the bravest dare try such a feat.”
And when the old storyteller came to the description of Bellerophon’s attempt to ride Pegasus up to Mt Olympus, all eyes looked up to the heavens. But they all knew the tragic end to the story, how Zeus stings the mighty horse and the hero falls back to earth and suffers a crippling injury.
When the storyteller paused, an old man called out, “It was the fault of the horse, Pegasus. He feared the great god, Zeus.” The other listeners shook their heads in agreement. And one called out, “And the hero suffered because of the cowardly beast.”
Sofia, who was seated on a rock outside the ring of firelight, called out to the story listeners. “Why do you blame the horse for the hero’s misfortune? Blame the hero for his arrogance.”
One of the listeners turned to Sofia and called out, “Quiet girl, you ruin the story.”
“But it is true,” she responded.
Now all heads turned from the fire to the child crouched like a wild creature on the rock outside the ring of light. The storyteller called to Sofia and said, “My child the old love stories of mercy and forgiveness, while the young love stories of truth and justice. If you wish one day be a teller of tales, know your audience.”

A full moon rising over the ridge of Mt Helicon now reminded the teller of stories that the evening was spent and it was time to rest. She found a satisfactory ending to the gathering as the fire burned down to a bed of red coals. One by one the listeners got up and faded into the dark shadows that now surrounded the fire. When only Sofia remained, the old storyteller went to her and sat down on the rock beside her. For some time, they both looked at the last embers of the fire; but neither spoke a word.
Finally Sofia looked to the old woman and asked a question: “Are your stories true? Is there a real horse with wings that allow it to fly through the air?”
The woman looked up to the night sky, which now displayed a full moon over the spring of Hippocrene. She reached out and touched Sofia’s arm and said: “The story tells us that it is only on nights when the moon is full that Pegasus comes down to earth. He comes to our spring of Hippocrene to drink from the sacred waters. Now the old woman stood up, loosened the multi-colored shawl from her shoulders and wrapped it around the young girl, then she silently disappeared in the dark shadows.

Sofia stood up and looked after the old woman, but did not follow her back to the village. Instead she went to the spring and stood by the water’s edge. She looked into the dark water and saw there the reflection of a full moon overhead. For a long time, she stared into the water and allowed her imagination freedom to create. She imagined Pegasus coming down from Mt Helicon to drink at the spring of Hippocrene.

And so it was true. By the light of the full moon, the mythical horse came down to touch the world of humans. By the reflection in the spring’s dark waters Sofia followed the path as Pegasus came near, hovering in the air above the water. She was amazed by the creature. It was much smaller than the beast described by the storyteller. Its diaphanous wings were better suited for carrying a small child than a grown man.

Sofia wondered about the truth of her Pegasus. Was this a dream? Then she heard the sound of hooves striking hard rock as Pegasus landed; followed by the slurping of water as the winged horse drank the waters of the sacred spring, and finally the exhaling of air as an expression of joy and refreshment. Momentarily Sofia considered an attempt to leap on to the back of Pegasus, to ride the wild horse into the heavens like the hero, Bellerophon. Her thought complete she reflected, ‘maybe some time, maybe some night when I am older and wiser.’ With that thought, Sofia pulled the multi-colored shawl tight around her shoulders and dropped down to the ground by the spring to dream of riding the wild and wonderful horse.

It was there her grandmother found her sleeping, the shawl still around her shoulders. “My child, here I find you. Half the night I have been looking for you. Why are you sleeping here by the spring?”
“Grandmother”, said Sofia, “I wanted to see the flying horse, Pegasus. The old storyteller said the creature comes to the spring on nights when the moon is full. And it is true. Grandmother I saw the winged horse, but she is not as the storyteller tells. Pegasus is smaller, more delicate and gentle as a spring rain, not at all like a summer thunderstorm.”
Grandmother took Sofia into her arms and squeezed her tight to her breast: “My child the night is cold. Come, a warm bed awaits us.”
“But Grandmother, do you believe it is true? Do you believe that I saw Pegasus, the flying horse?”
“Sofia”, said the grandmother, “long, long ago, when I was a child like you, I heard the story of Pegasus. Like you I came to the spring when the moon was full. I too wanted to catch a glimpse of the magical creature, but…..”the woman’s words fell silent.
“And?”, asked Sofia gently of her old grandmother.
“And I saw nothing of the beautiful winged horse.” Now the old woman looked into Sofia’s eyes and said, “But that does not mean that I do not believe the truth of your story. We can honor truth that we do not share.”
Sofia hugged her grandmother and said, “Let’s go home to our warm bed.”

…..”So there you have a story of Pegasus the flying horse. Did you enjoy it?”, I asked my granddaughter.
“Pretty good story, Pap, but I wonder if Sofia ever did ride Pegasus.”
“Well, I guess we could make up a story about her riding the winged horse”, I said.
“But then it wouldn’t be true”, she responded with assurance.
I paused a moment. “I think it would be as true as your story of Reggie being in heaven with God.”
“But that is true”, she assured me. “My mom said it is true.”
“Well”, I said, “I agree with the grandmother in the story. I honor the truth of others even when it is not my truth. So if you want to think that I will someday be up in heaven with God and Reggie that is fine with me.”
“OK Pap,but I want you to stay with me as long as you can.

……..So ended the imagined conversation with my four year old granddaughter and the story I created from it.

As a storyteller I liked to think that every conversation holds the potential for discovering a new story. I am like a miner in the California Gold Rush of 1848–the next shovel of dirt will expose a treasure. So I continue to talk and to engage with everyone who crosses my path in life!

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Would I Rather Be Fourteen?

Last week my daughter told me that my grandson, fourteen years old, expressed an interest in having lunch with me. Because the family lives only a few miles away, I had a regular play day routine with my grandson when he was younger. When he started school and the wider world beckoned–sports and friends–we lost our regular time together. Here I must admit, I have never been good at playing the traditional grandfather role and show up for my grandson’s sports games. As a result, we have not seen each other much in the past five to seven years. I was happily surprised at the invitation to lunch.

The next day I texted the young man–preferred form of communication–with dates that worked for me. We settled on a date and time, but not the place to eat. I pondered if I should decide on the place to eat. I decided to first give him the choice, but be ready if he did not have a favorite restaurant. I picked out five. One was Japanese. I remembered that his mother shared that he loved to eat sushi. When we met and he did not show a preference, I suggested my ideas, saving the Japanese restaurant for my last possibility. I said that if we chose the Japanese I would need his help because I know nothing about sushi–and that was in fact true. He seemed to like the idea of being his grandfather’s teacher!

I had chosen an early lunch time, about 11:30 A.M. I did that because I have difficulty hearing in crowded, noisy restaurants. It worked perfectly; we were the first guests of the day. The music was a little too loud, but I could manage over it. My grandson was indeed a capable guide to select a meal from the Japanese menu–though I admit some Japanese sushi rolls were named after American sports teams. It was not like being in Tokyo. But he handled the process with aplomb and in a short time we were eating and conversing just as I imagined it.

The night before our lunch I told my wife, Nancy, that I wanted to be careful in conversation with my grandson. I wanted to remember to not talk too much about the past, rather focus on the future. As an old man, my tendency is to review the past; as a young man of fourteen years, my grandson’s life is mostly in the future. Along this line of thinking, I also knew that he sees his future tied to sports–his father is a high school teacher and football coach. Since his father played college sports, I imagined that he looked forward to a similar future.

My grandson surprised me when he shared that he is not interested in playing sports or being a coach. He is more interested in sports management or broadcasting.  Then he went on to describe his Instagram page where he evaluates professional basketball players. He said that he has about three hundred followers of the page!

We talked about digital media and how you tell a good story with a combination of pictures, written and spoken words. Here I could not keep quiet about my past. I had to share how I conceived my multi-media storytelling programs for schools. I am not sure how much he understood about my work. He did not ask any questions.

Somewhere in our conversation we started to talk about video games. He shared how kids today communicate and play games without being together in person. I ask if he could demonstrate this when we went back to his house.  He agreed and we went on to converse about family and school classes for the upcoming year. In total, we talked for about an hour over our Japanese Sushi. I enjoyed the meal, but treasured most the opportunity for conversation with a fourteen year old.

When we arrived back at his family’s house, we went to the basement to the game room. He immediately found the controller for his favorite video game. The game has one purpose: you try to kill people and they try to kill you. After five minutes of mayhem, I asked if he had ever shot a real gun. He said no. I shared that I had been taught to shoot and kill animals as a young boy.  I said that I did not like hunting and shooting guns as a boy; and, I never did kill an animal. This was as close as I came to being critical of this game that he seems to enjoy very much. Finally, I was able to convince him to change video games and show me one built around the sport of basketball. For ten minutes he demonstrated how to play this game; and actually while he was playing, a friend came online and joined the game for a few minutes.

So did I come away from this visit with my grandson wishing I could be fourteen again and have my life before me? I think the important word here is “be”: and, its meaning is very different for the two ages. For the fourteen year old, it is connected to becoming, discovering your potential and fulfilling it. Carl Jung called this the process of individuation, becoming what you are meant to be, not what others want you to be. For me at seventy-six years, being is more complex. As I have described it before, you live with one eye on the road ahead and the other eye on the rear-view mirror. If you have lived your process of individuation, there is pleasure in looking back at your life. This looking back is even more attractive when you look ahead and realize that death is just down the road. Maybe this is the time to start practicing “mindfulness”, to be in the present and ignore the past and the future? I think I prefer, for myself, trying to be involved in all three: reflecting on my past, aware of my end of life before me and all the while remaining engaged with the world around me!


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In 1973 I was hired by the New Jersey State Museum to create programs for school children coming to the museum. For two years I experimented with a form of communication I called “storytelling”. It was different from the storytelling presented in libraries where the storyteller held up a book, both reading and showing the pictures to children. It was different from “folk” storytellers who shared stories from different oral traditions without aids. My storytelling programs incorporated a variety of media: recorded music and sound effects, visuals (sometimes film) on rear-projection screens and my own spoken stories and narrative. It was an early form of multi-media storytelling.

Recently the New York Times had an article on the number of writers who publish their works first as audio-books, not paper-books. I, in contradiction to the trend, have chosen to publish my most recent story as a paperback book. When I pointed this out to my wife, she said “you have always been a contrarian, going against the grain.”

There is a reason for my contrarian nature. As I have shared in the past, my dyslexia put a “chip on my shoulder” at an early age. I learned early in life to not accept direction just because it came from someone in authority. I had to judge for myself and follow my own instincts. This has had both positive and negative results for me. On the positive side, I have forged a creative and unique path in life with my work as an oral storyteller. On the negative side, I have not been good at working in institutions where there are people in authority.

So how do I make sense of my decision to put forward Of Mice And Mills as a paper book and not as podcast or an audio book? My decision is based on preservation and not on financial reward. This does not mean that I will not record this story in the future if people find it efficacious; but for the present, I am intent on preserving my creative work for others to discover after I am dead.

I want say a word about Amazon’s software– Createspace.com–that I used to publish my book. With limited computer skills, but with energy to explore and determination to succeed, I was able to publish my book and have fifty paperback copies for under $200.00!

The creative life is not about fame and money–though I believe you have to pay attention to the details of money to be successful–it is about following your passion to create wherever it leads you. In fact success, I believe, often leads to repetition and limits your opportunities to try new things. Creating the mouse storybook has taken me back to other scripts for stories that I have performed orally for many years. I ask myself: Is there another story I want to publish as a paper book?

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A Spiritual Adventure

On a cold, snowy day last January, I received a message from the alumni office of Princeton Theological Seminary. They were promoting a gathering on PTS’s campus for the second weekend in May. I remembered the beauty of springtime in Princeton. In particular, my imagination conjured up the image on the seminary campus of a paulownia tree in bloom with beautiful, purple flowers. As a graduate of that institution in 1970, I decided it was time to go back and see if the tree was still there.

That spring forty-eight years ago was not a time of accomplishment and hopes for the future. During the winter of that year I came before an ordination committee of the Presbyterian Church and they refused to ordain me. Because I had a wife and young son, I needed to find employment. I decided to turn away from the ordination process and seek employment in the profession of my family. I applied and was accepted as a laborer at U S Steel’s plant in Fairless Hills, Pennsylvania. I calculated that I could earn more money in the mill than as a new minister; and, I would have time for the writing and photography I wanted to explore.

I worked at U S Steel for three years while I formed the ideas that would create a career as an oral storyteller. During this time I continued to attend a Presbyterian church as a layman. I was even ordained as a lay elder in the Church. As my career as a storyteller became more important in my life, I stopped attending the local church and eventually gave up my membership in the Presbyterian Church. For forty plus years I have had little relationship with the Christian Church in any of its denominational forms.

This brings me back to that decision on a wintry night last January. Why did I decide to attend a PTS alumni event––three days with one-hundred and seventy-five people who have given their lives to the Church? I know that it was not because I have regrets about the decision that I made when I left the Church. As Joseph Campbell put it, I did find my “bliss” in telling stories to children for thirty-five years and what has followed in adult storytelling for the past ten years. I think, for me, it is related to what I will call a lifelong search for the spiritual in me.

My last morning at the PTS alumni gathering, I attended a lecture by Miroslav Volf, a professor of systematic theology at Yale Divinity School. His lecture was centered on the ideas of “Trust and Trustworthiness” as understood by the Christian tradition. His subject was supported by Biblical sources, history and what I will call psycho-socio statements about the human condition. What I found missing was any reference to the importance of myth in our spiritual lives.

After the lecture and brief questions from the audience, the alumni attending broke-up into four groups to continue discussion of the subject in smaller groups. I joined one of the groups hoping to stimulate discussion by introducing my concept of religious myth as a foundation for a spiritual life. I wanted to talk about Carl Jung’s concept of archetype. And, I admit, my ego wanted to tell the story of my rejection by the Presbyterian Church (about being trustworthy) and my journey to build a career and find my own form of spirituality.

The art of conversation involves both listening and sharing ideas. When I enter into conversation I try not to dominate with my own ideas. In a group of thirty people, as we had that morning, I like to get a feel for the group and wait for an opening where I can share a new idea that adds something to the conversation. I should have known with a group of extroverted Presbyterian ministers, talking about theological ideas, there were not likely to be any lulls in the conversation.

The leader of our group restated several of Dr. Volf’s main points in his lecture––one that trust between antagonistic groups comes when we build bridges between them–– and then asked for responses. An elderly woman immediately claimed the floor and told the story how she became the first Presbyterian woman to be ordained––building a bridge between females and males in the Church in her understanding. An African-American woman questioned the bridges that have been built between blacks and whites in this country. Another woman of color, who came from a Caribbean Island, questioned the bridges built by missionaries on her island. A white male questioned the value of bridges between antagonistic groups. He told the story of Jesus and the money changers in the temple. When we encounter evil we should destroy it, he argued, not build bridges to change it!

This was all good conversation in a community of Presbyterian ministers. I enjoyed their discussion, their different perspectives of the Church––but the more I listened, the more I came to feel like a New York Yankees fan at a Philadelphia Phillies baseball game. Their Christocentric metaphors for the spiritual experience are not shared by me. And yes, I know, they are Christians and now it is clearer in my heart and mind that I am not a Christian. I thank the PTS community for helping me to say these words: I am not a Christian.

I walked out of the discussion group without saying a word to anyone about my spiritual journey after graduating from seminary. As I headed to my car, I looked across the campus quadrangle and there I saw the paulownia tree. It was in full bloom with beautiful, purple flowers. I smiled: it had been a good two days in Princeton, New Jersey, but now it was time to shake the dust from my shoes and leave town!

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Time passes quickly when you are involved with an idea. For me the past five months have been spent thinking about stories of our nation’s industrial past. During this time I have written three stories that bring to life the experiences of the people who worked in the mills and factories of our nation. Also, I have visited the National Museum of Industrial History in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania eight times for tours and teaching sessions to gain an understanding of how they tell this story of our country. Since early January I have tried to offer to the museum staff suggestions of ways that they might incorporate oral storytelling in their presentation to the public. My ideas have been acknowledged, and even appreciated by some of the staff, but so far I have not been invited to discuss my ideas.

I ask myself: why is the NMIH staff reluctant to discuss my storytelling ideas? This is not the first time I have failed to sell an idea. Anyone who is creative, and presents new ideas, will fail more times than they succeed. But for this blog, I find myself thinking about my age and its influence on the reception of my creative ideas today. Do the young staff of NMIH look at me and see a man over seventy-five—which I am—and they say, “What does that old man know?” I reflect on something that Philip Roth said in an interview for the New York Times. Talking about the decision to stop writing novels at the age of seventy-eight, he said: “I had a strong suspicion that I’d done my best work and anything more would be inferior. I was by this time no longer in possession of the mental vitality or the verbal energy or the physical fitness needed to mount and sustain a large creative attack…” I certainly do agree with Mr. Roth that I do not have the physical and mental energy that I had ten years ago.

I could argue with myself and say: well, you are not Philip Roth. You’ve had, at best, limited success in your work. Your standards are not as high as his. Besides, you are a dyslexic writer; you have always struggled to read and write. You have to work your stories over and over to make them intelligible for others. You write not because you are a good writer, you write because you think you have something to say and you want it recorded as your perspective on this life! You love what you do, why not continue until you drop dead!

So again, I ask myself: what are you going to do about this relationship with NMIH? Nancy advises: Be patient, you do not know the struggles they are going through to keep the museum running in only their second year of existence. I remind her that I have never been a patient man and quote Grandfather Jung: “I have had much trouble getting along with my ideas. There was a daimon in me, and in the end its presence proved decisive. It overpowered me, and if I was at times ruthless it was because I was in the grip of the daemon. I could never stop at anything once attained. I had to hasten on, to catch up with my vision. Since my contemporaries, understandably, could not perceive my vision, they saw only a fool rushing ahead.”

I will try to take the advice of my good wife and mentor. I will, for a while, continue my work on stories from our industrial past. One of the stories I have written is based on an idea from a novel, Out of This Furnace, by Thomas Bell, published in 1941. I call my story, The Price of a Smile.


Stanislaw Duplaga was twenty-three when he came to America from Poland. His journey began when he received a letter from his brother in America. The letter contained $ 3.50 in American money. Included with the money were strict instructions: When you arrive in New York, take a ferry to New Jersey and buy a train ticket to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania with the money I have provided. If you need help show this paper in English to any policeman you meet. On a sheet of white paper was printed clearly: Please help me find my way to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. The letter ended with a warning about men who might try to steal his money and possessions. Fortunately, his brother did not warn him about beautiful, blond haired women.

Stan first noticed the beautiful, blond haired woman standing alone on the pier in Bremen as they waited to board the ship to America. On a warm, early summer afternoon, she wore a light sweater over a simple dress that did not conceal the curves of her body. After they boarded the ship to America, time and again he found himself mesmerized by glimpses of the beautiful woman in the narrow passages of the ship; or, across the crowded steerage deck of the ship.

The steerage deck on a 19th century steam ship was normally below the main deck. On the journey to America, the steerage might accommodate up to one hundred of the poorest immigrants. On the journey back to Europe, it was used to carry cargo. The large open space in the steerage had bunk beds lining the walls and the center was filled with tables for eating and social activities. Single men slept at one end of the steerage and single women at the other end of the compartment. The bunks in-between were ideally reserved for married couples and their children.

The journey to America normally took just under two weeks. Stan was lucky. The seas were calm and he did not experience sea sickness. Nevertheless, he was lonely traveling without family or friends. Numerous times he looked across the large room and he saw the young woman he had first encountered on the pier in Bremen. He saw her numerous times in the passages going up to the main deck for the fresh sea air, but he could not gain the courage to engage her in conversation.

Two days before they were scheduled to arrive in New York, Stan finally found the perfect opportunity to speak to the young woman. She was seated at one of the eating tables, not alone, but there was room for him to sit down next to her. With his bowl of porridge he signaled his wish to seat himself beside her. She nodded a shy affirmation.
“My name is Stanislaw Duplaga.”
“I am Maryla Stankiewiez”, she responded.
“And where is your new home in America”, if I may ask?
“Ah, Pennsylvania, I believe it is called”, responded Maryla with hesitation.
“Ah, Pennsylvania, that is also my destination. Do you have family living there?”
“Yes, my older sister lives in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.”
“You are traveling to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania!” cried out Stan with great excitement. “I too am traveling to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania to live with my older brother. Perhaps in two days we will travel on the same train in America!”
Stan looked to Maryla, expecting a happy response to their discovery. Instead, he saw a sad look on her face. “Are you not happy coming to this new land?”
Maryla responded with her eyes down, “I miss my family: my mother, my father, my younger brothers and sisters. Tomorrow is my father’s day of birth celebration. The family will be gathering: uncles, aunts, cousins…to share a meal, a glass of wine, the family together, to dance together…but… I am here alone in the world.”

Stan did not reply to Maryla. He understood the uncertainty of coming to a new land. Later, when he was alone, he thought of Maryla’s sad look and he wanted to change it, to bring a smile to her beautiful face. Stan felt in his pocket for the little purse where he carried the $3.50 in American money. He pondered: How can I bring a smile to Maryla’s face?

Next morning, Stan visited the third-class steward on the main deck. With his American money, he ordered a bottle of red wine for $2.00. And for $ 1.00 he was able to hire an accordion player from the ship’s crew. That evening, he managed to be eating with Maryla in the steerage cabin when the sailor showed up with the bottle of wine and his accordion. From the bowels of the steam ship that night the sound of music and singing filled the air as the steerage passengers celebrated the birthday of Maryla Stankiewiez’s father!

The following day the ship from Bremen, Germany docked near Castle Garden, the New York port of entry for immigrants in 1890. Stan had just enough money to buy a ticket for the ferry to travel from lower Manhattan to New Jersey. When Maryla hurried to find the train station to buy a ticket to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania, Stan lied and told her he had family to visit in New Jersey before traveling to Bethlehem. He did not share that he would be walking instead of riding the train. As they parted Maryla smiled and told him how wonderful the evening of music, wine and singing had been for her. She very much wanted to see him when he came to Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.


So Raymond, as your anima, I encourage you to listen to your wife: find patience in your old age, do not cut and run from the museum relationship as you have so many times in your life. Maybe there are lessons to learn as you grow even older!


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I have not written a blog for three months. This time of silence has given me the opportunity to act more than reflect on my creative ideas. In September, Nancy and I visited NMIH (National Museum of Industrial History) in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. I wanted to explore the possibility of a connection between “Of Mice and Mills”—my children’s story—and a museum that tells the story of industrialization in America. The thought was that their knowledge of factual history might inform my work of imagination.

This visit to NMIH has opened doors I did not expect to discover. My first response to the museum was that it told me too much about the machines of industrial America and not enough about the people who operated them. Here, I recognize that when we think about “industrialization” we naturally begin with machines and how they changed the world. That story needs to be told, and some visitors to the museum will want this focus. I, on the other hand, coming from a family embedded in the culture of industrial workers, I want to tell the stories of the people who operated the machines.

The museum experience has opened the door for me to reflect on my personal and family experiences in the industrial work place. First, a little family history: both of my grandfathers worked their whole lives in the bituminous coal industries of western Pennsylvania—one died at the age of forty-one after an accident in the mine. My father and three uncles worked their whole lives in the steel industries around Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. And I, personally, worked in two steel mills for short periods of time. One summer, I worked on the railroad track gang at Crucible Steel in Midland, Pennsylvania—the mill where my father worked for forty years. Later, I worked for four years in the rod mill at US Steel in Fairless Hills, Pennsylvania.

This history has given me stories to tell about the lives of workers in industrial America. But more to the point today, my visit to NMIH has encouraged me to reflect on the stories from my industrial worker family—no matter how apocryphal they may be. First, a cautionary tale—humorous in our family’s telling of it—from my mother’s father, Harry Fink (Pap), who worked in the coal mines from the age of ten. One day Pap decided to introduce his teenage son to life underground. He took him down into the mine and lit a charge of dynamite to free a wall of coal—we assume he knew what he was doing. Pap ran with his son out of the tunnel, but not too far. The dynamite exploded with a great roar! His son was terrified, thinking they were both going to die, he ran from the mine. They said that day the son decided that he would get a job as a truck driver instead of applying for a job in the mine as he had contemplated. This family story made the point that Pap did not want his sons working with him in the mines. Two of his sons became electricians; the next in line was the truck driver. The fourth son was a minister, and the youngest was a career Master Sergeant in the Air Force.

My father’s family story was very different. My grandfather Gray (Bob) was the one who died at the age of forty-one. It was never clear why he died, whether a mine accident or natural causes. Something happened in the mine, but he died at home. My father, Cecil, was sixteen at the time and there were five younger children in the family. To make matters worse, this was at the time of the Great Depression in our country. After several years of menial jobs, Cecil traveled fifty miles to find work at Crucible Steel in Midland, Pennsylvania. For several days he stood in front of the employment office where men gathered who were looking for work. He noticed that the men who were hired tended to be the biggest and strongest looking of the group. After several days of not being hired, he decided to make himself look bigger and stronger. He put on three heavy, wool sweaters under his winter jacket and went to the employment office next morning. He said it was not a cold day, and he was hot with all of his heavy clothing, but the employment officer picked him out of the group of men for a job as a laborer in the mill. Cecil worked as a laborer for more than a year until he heard about an apprenticeship to work as a machinist in the mill. He took the test and was accepted into the program.

The craft of being a machinist was a source of great pride for my father. He might be challenged with reading and writing, but he could measure the tolerance for a nut fitting on a bolt to one ten-thousands of an inch with his micrometer. When World War II started, and many young men were drafted into the military, my father had a deferment because of his job in the machine shop of the steel mill. Trained machinists were more valuable to the war effort at home than taking up arms to fight overseas. During the war he often worked sixteen hours a day, seven days a week.

A sense of pride in workmanship was given to me as a child. My father always seemed to have his micrometer handy. I cannot remember whether he carried it in his pocket or kept it in his tool box, but I do remember him measuring the thickness of a sheet of paper in the evening newspaper—0.00025 of an inch! I remember one time he took the back off his watch and measured the width of a gear driving it—I cannot remember the details there. As a young boy, I was often exasperated by my father’s attention to detail; as an old man, I appreciate his passion for his work. I have tried to bring a similar passion to my work as a storyteller.

So here we come full circle back to my beginning to volunteer at NMIH and the doors this experience is opening for me. I will continue to reflect on my family stories. I will also search for the stories of other industrial workers and their families. I may even find a place to introduce the mouse story. In the process, I hope to help the museum to tell the story of industrialization in America.

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A couple of weeks ago I visited with a friend who is ninety-two. In conversation I asked her: What is good about growing old? She did not answer immediately, but I could see she was slowly shaking her head to express the negative. Still, I could see that she was searching for words to express her feelings. Finally, a wry smile lighted her face and she said: I am closer to God!

My friend is seventeen years older than myself. Nevertheless, she continues to live alone in her country home. Her only concession is that she has asked her daughter to call every morning to determine that she is still among the living. When I asked why she refuses to leave her home, she said that it would mean leaving her husband who died fifteen years ago! I admire her sense of spirituality.

As we come to the last third of life, it is hard to imagine how we can be innovative. Perhaps the opportunity comes from knowing that we are close to the end of life and the creative response comes from this simple fact. Certainly at the age of seventy-five I recognize the changes in my body. The driving energy of sexuality no longer dominates my mind, physical body and spirit. My unconscious is released from the drive to engage with the opposite sex, to achieve success in a career and to earn money. I am free to explore worlds that, as a young man, I did not have time or the interest to engage.

I will tell a little story to illustrate my point. Yesterday I was trying to fix my android tablet and this sent me to the closet to find the book of instructions. There, during my search, I came upon an old passport from 1965—the date is set by the address on the document—and I see a picture of myself at twenty-three. Momentarily I felt a disjunct, something disturbing about the picture of that young man. I set the picture aside to show my wife, Nancy, and went on with my practical chore of the moment. At dinner she commented on seeing the picture, but we did not discuss it.

Dreams have always been important for me. I have recorded them in a journal for most of my adult life. Carl Jung has been my teacher through his writings, particularly his autobiography, Memories, Dreams, Reflections. Jung taught me to pay attention to the intuitive side of myself, but I have not always had time to reflect on my own dreams and memories. For many years the immediate drives of daily life held me back. That is not true today.

I will share a dream from last night that relates to the passport picture I found yesterday. In the dream, I am riding a bicycle down the hallway of an elementary school—seems strange but not in a dream. I see a young female teacher standing by her classroom door. I notice that she is short and of stocky build with auburn brown hair. I stop to engage her and help her in some way—cannot remember how—and then I ask if she would like to have a cup of coffee with me. She says she is busy; and besides, she is not good at lasting relationships. I offer to give her my card in case she changes her mind. I take out my wallet, but I am clumsy and everything falls on the floor of the school hallway. I look at the mess on the floor and say to the teacher, “Oh well, just Google Ray Gray and you will get the information.” The dream ends with the sound of children calling out, “Hey, he’s Ray Gray?”

Jung suggests that we are all of the characters in our dreams. The young teacher with her stocky build and auburn hair could reasonably represent me as the young man in the passport. Jung would call her my anima, the creative and intuitive energy in me. In the dream she hesitates to engage with me. I come back with the most ego driven response one can imagine—a Google search for my name!

Jung does not declare the unconscious the arbiter of our life. The conscious ego has a right to contend with the unconscious self to direct our lives. In this dream I am inclined to side with the wisdom of the unconscious self. As I shared in the last entry in this journal—more than a month ago—I am struggling with the “mouse story”. Should I self-publish it as a paperback book with illustrations? Maybe it needs to be an audio book with music and sound effects? Or, maybe, I need to recognize that it’s not worth the effort and move on to the next project. My reflection on this dream is that the unconscious self is reminding me of my tendency to “move on” to the next project when I feel a little pushback. Maybe I do need to stick with this story and create a new form of it!


As my ninety-two year old friend expressed with her body’s language, there is a lot that is bad about growing old. Our minds and bodies do not work as well as they did in our youth. But, there is also much that is good. If we have the energy, we have time to support the busy lives of younger people. We have time to consider, reflect and come to an understanding of the life we have lived. And, as my ninety-two old friend expressed it, we can come closer to God.

My idea of “God” may be different from my old friend. For me, it is the spirit that guides my interpretation of dreams and directs my creative life. It is not directed by a particular religious tradition, though many of the pathways I have discovered were walked by my Christian ancestors. The Holy, the divine, and sacred in life have been revealed through my creative process. I claim no particular gift other than the will to continually engage in the process. And, I also recognize my benefits from engaging the works of other creative artists. I have mentioned the influence of Jung’s autobiography on my life. I will mention a Christian hymn; My shepherd will supply my need (words by Isaac Watts to the tune: Resignation) that touches my soul. And, my appreciation of the sacred and holy has not been limited to human creativity. I remember the experience of paddling a sea kayak in the Aegean Sea and finding a dolphin swimming next to me. I felt the sense of wonder about this other creature that was curious about me as I was curious about it!

None of us knows how long we have to live within these four walls we call our human body. We do know that our physical abilities are diminishing as we move into our seventies—our ability to see visions of how to change the physical world. On the other side of the balance, I will boldly suggest that our spiritual abilities may be still in bud and waiting to come to life. As the Hebrew writer, Joel, suggested long ago, “Your old will dream dreams!”

Can we imagine that our task in the seventies, and even later in life, is to explore what the prophet Joel meant by “dream dreams”? For me, it has something to do with the unconscious self that I hear speaking to me through my dreams. It has something to do with the creative process that has enriched my life through seventy-five years. My task as an old man, my innovation, is to be open to the unconscious and to create out of the experience. Now let me get back to that mouse story and discover how I can recreate it!


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Imitating Goethe!

Recently I decided to go back and revisit Goethe’s “Faust”. It is a story that I have read several times in my life. In reading the introduction to my 1901 edition of the story, I discovered that Goethe worked on the story for the better part of life: editing and adding to it over thirty to forty years.

This is heartening for me because I am back working on the “mill mouse” story. I first wrote this story in 1997 and last visited it in 2015—see my entry for June 26, 2015 in this journal—then I was distracted by beginning work on a memoir. It is good to see that Faust did not roll from the pen of Goethe in six weeks!

So how did I rekindle my passion for this story that I now call “Of Mice and Mills”? It came from Nancy pointing out an article in the newspaper about our local Canal Museum developing an affiliation with the Smithsonian in Washington. This reminded me that I had shared the mill mouse story with the historian at the Canal Museum in 2015. She liked the story, but shared two pages of historical facts that did not fit my story. At the time I became distracted with the memoir and did not respond to her criticism.

This brings up the conflict between historians and storytellers. I am willing to rewrite my story to fit history if it does not destroy the guts of a good story to tell. I will share an example of this conflict in “Of Mice and Mills”. It comes in an incidental story about a mouse called Alexander Fartolfling. The story is called “The Dancing Church Cat”. The story takes place in an historic church. The historian does not think the church had an organ or partial basement as I put in my story. The church is no longer standing. There are no definitive records to prove the historian right. So I choose to have my organ and partial basement in my story. Here is my story. You can judge of importance of these elements to the story.


There are many more tales about the iron mill near Biery’s Port, as I said before, but I do have a favorite, one called ‘The Dancing Church Cat’. From the day that Sam rescued Alexander from the workman’s shovel their inter-species friendship grew. When Sam came to visit his father’s mill, he always stopped at the waterwheel. Alexander seemed to know when the boy was about to arrive and he was always waiting for him, ready for a new adventure.

One day Alexander found Sam by the waterwheel in the early morning. He was dressed in fancy linen trousers and a jacket, and there were shoes on his feet— Sam usually did not wear shoes when he came to the canal to fish and spend time with Alexander.

“Good morning, Quick Whip,” said Sam. The human boy made up this name because Alexander’s tail reminded him of the whip used by the canal boatmen to encourage their mules. He did not understand that we use our tails to communicate just as humans use their bodies to communicate.

“We’re going to church this morning,” said the human to the mouse. “I don’t suppose you’ll enjoy the sermon any more than me, but there will be lots of other things to see and do in church.” Alexander understood little of this spoken communication, but he trusted his friend.

Sam picked him up and stroked his back— this affection Alexander understood— then gently slipped him into his pocket. “Papa and Mama are about ready to walk up the hill to church. We’d better hurry or we’ll be left behind.” Sam’s jacket pocket was large enough for Alexander to move around and even offered the possibility to peek his head out from under the flap.

Sam Thomas ran up the path from the canal as his father emerged from the house followed by his mother, two brothers and two sisters.

“Hurry up Samuel”, called his father, “Your mother does not like to be late for church.” As he ran, Sam put his hand into his pocket to protect Alexander.

“Samuel”, called his mother, “what do you have in your pocket? It better not be another mouse!”

“No, Mother,” said Sam, “it’s just a present I have for a friend.”

“What friend?” asked his mother.

“Uh… um… it’s a girl,” said Sam.

“David, did you hear this? Your son has a girlfriend,” Mrs. Thomas teased as she nudged her husband.

Mr. Thomas smiled. “Well, my dear, our son is nearly a man. There comes a time when it is proper to notice our opposites.”

Poor Alexander was being jostled about as Sam ran to catch up to the others. When Sam slowed to a walking pace, Alexander was able to poke his nose out of the pocket without being seen by Sam’s mother.

The Thomas family entered the Presbyterian Church and filled a pew near the front of the sanctuary. For some time Alexander was content with his hiding place inside Sam’s pocket, but the service was long and he grew bored when the singing was replaced by a long sermon.

Restless and curious about this new place, Alexander poked his head out of the boy’s pocket. Sam had his eyes closed and seemed asleep. Alexander quietly slipped out of his pocket and on to the pew seat. Sam was sitting on the end of the pew next to the center aisle of the church. Alexander was able to hop down to the floor without being seen.

The church floor was a forest of shoes and boots. Some were rooted to the floor like great oaks, while others shifted back and forth as if driven by a stormy wind, and some were working up and down like the blowing cylinder of the iron furnace. Alexander’s destination was the wall some distance away. He made it half way there before a shifting boot caught him solid on the side and he let out an unintended squeak. No one cried out, but several people saw him. One nudged his friend and another pointed to the floor. Before the whole church was disturbed, Alexander made it to the wall and followed it until he came to a partially opened door that offered an escape route.

The room was dark except for the light coming through the sanctuary door. For some time Alexander remained motionless as his eyes adjusted to the blackness. When they finally did, he saw two big, yellow-green eyes staring back at him. There was an unmistakable smell. A big yellow tomcat was sitting quietly across the dark room. The cat saw him, but made no movement. Alexander reasoned that it perhaps had something to do with the church and all of the humans in it.

Suddenly from the sanctuary came a burst of music. The church organ was on the other side of the wall from the dark room. The sound surged through the wall and vibrated every board of the wood floor. Alexander felt the vibrations in his feet and watched in amazement as the cat started to sway back and forth to the beat of the music. Then slowly the tomcat’s feet started to move and he stepped lightly around the room, raising and lowering his head. The church cat danced around Alexander, bowing and smiling broadly as he passed in front of him.

Mesmerized by the dance, Alexander was starting to sway to the music himself when he heard another sound. “Psst, psst, psst, you mouse, better get out of there!” It was a little church mouse calling to him from a hole in the wall. “Old Tom loves to dance, but he is always hungry when the music is finished. Come with me.”

Alexander heeded the church mouse’s warning: though when he told the story in later times, he said the music so enchanted him that he was ready to dance with Old Tom. He scooted through the hole after him to safety. Alexander followed the mouse between two boards and along a narrow passage until they came to a closet at the side of sanctuary. There they were greeted by a whole family of church mice.

One called to Alexander in a hushed voice, “Did you see the serpent? Have you come to save us?”

“No, no, this one knows nothing about the serpent,” said the mouse that saved Alexander from Old Tom. “He came from among the humans.”

“Then he must be very wise and powerful if he lives among them,” said another.

“I think not,” said the first mouse. “He was ready to dance with Old Tom.”

There was a buzz of laugher and conversation until Alexander interrupted, “Cats and serpents? What is this all about?”

All at once the chatter ended, but no mouse answered. The distant sound of the humans still singing to the organ music was the only sound for a long time. Finally, one mouse spoke. “The serpent is very powerful and he lives in the underworld. He has terrorized our family for many generations.”

“Have you seen this serpent?” asked Alexander.

“Ha,” said one, “you see him and you are good as dead. Some call him Death!”

“Then none of you have seen the serpent,” said Alexander.

“I have seen him in my dreams,” piped up another. “He is very big. He crouches close to the ground. Sometimes he is dark as the midnight pulpit. Sometimes he is light as the midday sun in the belfry, and still other times, he is red as the sunlight through the church window.”

“But none of you have ever seen the serpent, eye to eye?” asked Alexander as he looked from mouse to mouse. Every face showed the fear that grows in an imagination fed by ignorance.

“Can you help us?” called a voice from the back of the group. “Can you save us from this evil?”

Alexander did not answer the plea. He saw the consternation on their faces. With a look of determination he turned from the family of church mice and retraced his path back to the room where he met the cat. As he made his way he thought of his family’s stories. He thought of his father, Vasiley, standing bravely against an army of wharf rats. He remembered the story of his mother, Doodle, taking on the challenge to make the Great Journey. He thought of Grandpa Darius’s raft trip down the Severn River to find the mill at Ironbridge. Facing terror and finding a rational response was part of his family’s tradition.

Alexander reasoned that the source of anxiety and fear for this family of church mice was likely no more than a black snake living in the church basement. How could he eliminate the snake? He sensed that the solution was tied to the other denizen of the Presbyterian Church, the dancing cat, Old Tom.

When Alexander came out the hole and into the organ room at the side of church sanctuary, the service had ended and the humans had all left the church. This meant that Sam Thomas and his family could not return him to the mill. Alexander regretted that he was going to causes his parents more anxiety, but that could not be helped. He had an adventure before him and a problem to solve.

The church cat was just finishing the meal left for him by the lady who played the church organ. Alexander was not sure how to approach this delicate and potentially dangerous relationship. He decided to begin by showing great respect for the cat.

“Excuse me, Reverend Sir…” said Alexander politely in the common language.

The yellow tom looked up from his meal. Slowly he rolled his pink tongue up and over his whiskers. His eyes were different now; they looked more yellow-brown in color, more a look of contentment than the rapture of dancing.

“What’s your problem, church mouse?”

“Please forgive me, Reverend Sir. I’m not a church mouse, I’m a mill mouse.”

“Mill mouse, church mouse–who cares? You all look alike anyway. Just cut the polite “reverend” crap! What do you want from me?”

Friends, please forgive me for pausing in the telling of our story at this critical time, but I want to make a point about the evolution of thinking in the Fartolfling family. The Presbyterian church mice in Alexander’s story were limited by what I call ‘dream thinking’. They lived an imagined reality that was not leavened by ‘direct thinking’. Alexander, I would argue, had learned from his family’s stories a different approach to reality. He thought of it as facing his fear, but it was also about clear and direct thinking. Standing in front of Old Tom, Alexander did a bit of direct thinking.

The big yellow tomcat had lost stature in the community of animals who lived in and around the church. Eating the food put out for him by the humans and dancing to their music had made him soft in the eyes of the church mice. And now they feared another more than him.

Alexander paused to consider Old Tom’s question, and then he repeated it out loud: “What do I want from you? Maybe it is better to ask what I can do for you. First, let’s talk about the evil serpent that lives in the underworld. Have you considered that the church mice fear him more than they fear you?”

Now, for mice, tomcats are the most feared creature of any household or church other than humans. Old Tom recognized that his position had been usurped by the black snake that had come to live in the basement. He was not happy about this loss of stature in the church. But what could be done?

Alexander watched Old Tom pondering the dilemma for a few moments, then continued. “If you help me chase the black snake from the basement, your stature as the most feared citizen of the community will be established again.”

“Oh, all right,” sighed Old Tom as he turned and started out of the organ room. “Follow me. We will see how brave and smart you are.” Old Tom led the way into the now empty sanctuary of the church, and Alexander followed behind. They made their way to the narthex at the back of the church. There was a small door at the side of the room. Old Tom shouldered it open and motioned to Alexander. “Show your stuff, mill mouse!”

A musty odor, redolent of coal, rose up from the dark basement. Alexander hesitated only a moment before hopping down the first step into the basement. There he paused and waited for his eyes to adjust and his nose to tell him where the black snake was hiding. With his nose raised, Alexander sniffed the air as he turned from one direction to the other, smelling and looking at the same time.

The church basement was not the size of the whole church. It was dug out just large enough to hold the furnace, a coal bin and a small storage area; and it was deep enough for humans to stand-up as they worked. Under the rest of the church there was a crawl space no more than two feet high. The level of the crawl space provided a way for a small creature— like a cat, or a mouse— to circle the basement without going down to the work area where the snake lived.

Alexander carefully took in all of these details as he considered a plan. A small opening for bringing coal into the bin allowed a little light into the dark basement. Near the opening was a wood board that sat on the edge of the upper crawl space level, and on top of the board was a bucket of paint.

The clever mill mouse remembered the havoc caused by the cat jumping on to the board over the basket in the bedroom of the Thomas boys. He turned to Old Tom and whispered his plan to create a little havoc in the world of the black snake; then Alexander descended the last steps into the floor of the basement.

As you probably know, all mice emit a shrill cry when they are injured. So Alexander began sounding a fake cry of pain. “Keel, keel, kkeeel!” he wailed. As he calculated, it was not long before the snake slithered out of the coal bin where he lived. Silently the creature moved, his head turning back and forth as he searched for the smell of blood from a wounded animal. Alexander cried even louder. “ KEEL, KEEL, KKEELL!”

When the snake came under the board with the paint bucket on it, Old Tom made a sudden run across the crawl space to the paint bucket sitting on the board. With all of his weight, he jumped on the board that was balanced precariously above the snake. The board flipped into the air with the bucket of paint, the lid came off, a flume of white paint rose up and then dropped down with a flop on the back of the snake! Old Tom let out a shriek as the paint flew and he danced safely out of harm’s way. And Alexander retreated back up the steps to safety. As for the black snake, he found himself the owner of a bright coat of white paint and an odor that exposed his presences to all. The myth of the “evil serpent of the underworld” was debunked. He had no choice but to leave the confines of the church to satisfy his hunger elsewhere.


The original purpose for the mouse story was my wish to create a story that shared the history of the industrial revolution with children in way that was interesting for them. I wanted to share the story of how iron and steel are made and how they were first used to build bridges. I wanted to share the story of transportation in the early part of the nineteenth century; traveling by sailing ships to America from Europe and carrying heavy equipment to the first iron mills in Pennsylvania.As I worked on the mouse story, I soon came to realize that it was also my philosophy of life—how I have tried to live my life

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I had a conversation with a friend who had recently retired. He missed his work and he was bored with retirement. He found a part-time job in the same industry, but he had to drive two hours from his home in Bucks County, Pennsylvania to northern New Jersey. It is difficult to find meaning in our lives after retirement. How do I fill those hours when I normally go to work five days a week? Work fills many hours of our week, gives meaning and, if we are lucky, pays us a decent wage.

Retirement for me has not been as difficult as for my friend. For forty plus years of a productive work life, I spent only six years employed by another. As a self-employed performer, presenting school assembly programs, I organized my time around the school year. Summers were spent researching and creating new programs and selling them to schools. During the school months I was on the road performing. This rhythm of my work life lasted for more than thirty years.

I decided at the age of sixty-four to stop advertising my school assembly programs. This meant that my work started to disappear, but it happened over a period of five years. Unlike my friend who had to find part-time work, I created my own form of part-time by not promoting my school programs. This gave me time to begin to think about “my stories for the last third of life”. I imagined that these stories would appeal to an adult audience. My time creating and performing stories for children had ended.

Ten years have passed since the decision was made to put my energy into exploring a new stage in life. Have I found meaningful ways to use the extra time in my life? I think that I have. Shortly after the decision was made, my mother, Ruby, came to live with Nancy and me. From my interaction with Ruby one day, I discovered my first subject for adult stories: These are the stories from Carl Jung’s autobiography Memories Dreams, Reflections. Two adult performances grew out of this stimulus: Imagining the World of Carl Jung and Dancing with Daemons.

After Ruby’s death in 2011, I turned my energy to producing adult storytelling performances at the Mercer Museum here in my home town. Finally, in 2015, I decided it was time to create a memoir about my journey through life, to make some sense of the twists and turns along the way, to discover the meaning of it all. This memoir—Grandpa Jung’s Lessons for a Slow Reader—was published as an E-book last fall and is available on Amazon.

There is, for me, a relationship between time and meaning in life. I needed to find time to transition from Ray Gray, the children’s storyteller, to the old man who wonders about the process of ageing and eventually dying. This need for time to transition between stages in life did not begin in the last ten years of my life. I have had many transitions, some major and some minor. Here is a short list: high school athlete to Peace Corps Volunteer; Peace Corps Volunteer to divinity student; divinity student to steelworker; steelworker to oral storyteller for children; single to married, back to single and married again. I have forgotten perhaps the most critical, from being unconscious to being conscious. This happened at the age of six when I first thought about death. I remember thinking: Everyone dies; if you are going to do anything in this life, you only have a limited amount of time to do it!

One of the salient ideas from Carl Jung, which I discovered in his autobiography at the age of twenty-seven when I was divinity student, is about the relationship between time and meaning. Talking about his life, Jung says: “There was a daimon in me, and in the end its presence proved decisive. It overpowered me, and if I was at times ruthless it was because I was in the grip of the daimon. I could never stop at anything once attained. I had to hasten on, to catch up with my vision. Since my contemporaries, understandably, could not perceive my vision, they saw only a fool rushing ahead.” I have risked looking foolish to find meaning in my time on this earth.

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STORIES FROM THE LAST THIRD OF LIFE…a report from the front lines of ageing

Normally I try to produce one blog each month. Last month I was focused on shooting and editing small video projects from my work and the work of fellow oral storytellers. This week I finished a trilogy of video stories that come from my live performance based on the memoir. I will share one of them.

The trilogy shares stories from three different stages of life: childhood, adulthood and ageing. I will focus here on the time of ageing. This is of most interest to me because it is the present for me. I have written before in this blog about my decision ten years ago to begin work on stories for the last third of life. Like many creative people I work and re-work an idea in different forms. Elijah Story was first shared as a written story, January 22, 2014, on these pages. It was last performed as a spoken story in my performance of February 19, 2017.

The video telling of the story seemed to me, to call for a third recreation. I decided to focus on the dream sequence in the story. I have the video of me telling the story last February, but I choose to share it as a voice-over to allow for a more dream-like experience. Hopefully, the music and visuals give form to the words and better share the story’s energy.

Ageing is a time of losses and gains. I have lost the vitality of youth both physically and mentally. Sexually, I do not have the drive to fantasize about and engage the opposite sex in the ways of a young man. Mentally, I worry about the loss of memory and the ability to care for myself—independence is important to me. But these losses are balanced by gains in other ways. My mind is not bedeviled by sexual fantasies; I am free to explore the unconscious energy present in my dreams. I worry less about success and personal achievement; I have time to go where my ideas take me. I have more time to play with my ideas and not worry about what they will produce financially.

My time of ageing—I will be seventy-five in two months—has been productive. I think this is true mostly because I have found ways to make myself useful to others in this world—mostly my wife and storytelling friends. Because of the memoir project I have gone back to shooting and editing video projects. Presently I am thinking about a documentary film project that explores the meaning of story. My fifty years of sharing fairytales, folktales, myths and historical stories has provided a wealth of experience. It is time to explore what I have learned about story and then begin to interview others who have shared a similar life’s work. In the future, I imagine creating an archive for our work as oral storytellers.

As I try to share in the Elijah story, the balance of the intuitive and the rational is vital to me. Grandpa Jung taught me long ago to explore the unconscious with my conscious mind. It is the convergence of these two gifts that make us whole and complete as human beings.

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